Stay Woke, Stay Safe: Tips for Consensual Connecting at Festivals

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Stay Woke, Stay Safe: Tips for Consensual Connecting at Festivals

Festivals can be a magical space, where human connection and unity is at an all-time high. Synchronicity takes center stage and the pull between people and energies is undeniable. It’s no surprise that many festies leave events with a deeper connection to friends or a fling they met over the course of the weekend. Festivals are a perfect place to let your heart guide your experience and practice vulnerability.

Here are crucial tips to curate a perfect festival date that will leave you and yours satisfied and carrying the connection into the default world.

There is nothing hotter than consent, just because someone agreed to go on a date with you doesn’t mean that is an invitation to hook up or take it to the next level. Festivals can be a hyper sexualized space, so make sure your partner is on the same page before you make any moves. Asking before advancing shows respect for them and reinforces boundaries that are often blurred at a festival.

Photo by Jacob Avanzato

Photo by Jacob Avanzato

Don’t try to pressure the situation just because you’re going on a date. Go with the flow and let everything dictate itself. Sometimes festival dates lead to real world relationships, sometimes they don’t. Try dropping your expectations and realize that if someone chose to hang out with you over all the great things happening at festival, that is all you need. Taking anything more off the table can be a great way to create a meaningful relationship that’s based off more than physical interaction.

Being on the same page as your festival partner can lead to a deeper connection and a relationship that shows mutual respect and value. Don’t get caught up in trying to hookup or force the issue; let it be organic. Often the magic and flow of the festival space will bring you what you want.

Going out on a festival date is a chance to party with a beautiful soul and share a mystical and magical experience. But be smart – there is nothing worse than overdoing it and having to end the night early or getting so spun out that you don’t remember the experience. Try to stay mindful and enjoy it!

Photo by Kolby Wall

Photo by Kolby Wall

When planning a festival date, use real world terms. I’ll pick you up at your “house” (camp) or we’ll get dinner at your favorite “restaurant” (food vendor). Try to use traditional date ideas in a non-typical setting. The interplay of setting and real world conventions will blend together to create a playful experience that still contextualizes it all in default world terms.

The festival space is a sacred gathering that establishes a strong commonality across all those who attend. Everyone is there for the same reasons: to grow, connect and have fun and as long as everyone is on the same page, everything you need and want will come to you in the perfect moment…

We leave you with a couple great mottos to keep in mind as you frolic in the Enchanted Forest next month: Consent is Crucial. And STAY WOKE! 😉

Photo by Jason Abraham

Photo by Jason Abraham

Jonathan Akbari

As a festival goer for the past 12 years, some of the most powerful and impactful moments have been in the festival face. I always wanted to give back to the community that helped shaped me. Through writing and sharing the experience, I strive to unite and galvanize everyone's experience. My favorite events have been Symbiosis in 2012, Lightning In A Bottle in 2010, Envision 2015 and Burning Man

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